Minimize
“The best we can do is compromise: learn to recognize situations in which mistakes are likely and try harder to avoid significant mistakes when stakes are high.” - Daniel Kahneman. The best way to solve a problem is to avoid it in the first place. You have to recognize the situations when you need to actively put a buffer between reacting and responding. People make intuitive judgments all day; you’re constantly taking in information from the world and trying to make sense of it. When something or somebody affects you directly in a negative way, you respond because you want to manipulate whatever you can to control and change the situation. But most of the time, you don't control much. Unhappiness is when there is a difference between what reality is and what you want it to be. When someone slights you, you react because you don't see yourself that way, and you want to make sure that person doesn't see you that way. Or you want to be seen as someone who doesn't take ...